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January, 3th 2017, someone phoned me, He said 'Will you marry me?'

February, 25th 2017, he visited my home, along with his family members.

April, 30th 2017, wedding solemnisation (akad nikah).

May, 1st 2017, wedding reception.

SO THAT'S IT. hahaha.


photo courtesy: teh ochi

For me, marriage is like 'okay, this will be my new life'. I wasn't ready enough to face it. I think I will never ready to accept someone, a new person, into my life. But still, it is like entering the next step life of mine, just like what other people do.

My husband, fortunately, is a very good-hearted person, as he always understand me for what I am. He understands my fear, my awkwardness, my inconvenience to be next to him. Just FYI, I never had such a special relationship with any man on earth. For 30 years of my life, I focused only on my study and my family. They are enough to make me happy and full as a woman playing around on earth. haha. So literally I don't need anything else to complete me, including a husband! :p

Yet, mommy is the person who persistently force me to get married. She never give up to convince me that sooner or later I will need someone by my side. She phoned me like everyday, and sometimes get angry because I often don't listen to her chatter. Sorry for that, Mom!

HAVE I EVER LOVED A MAN?
Of course, yes I had! But, it is just a simple love. Never a serious one. At that time a marriage life, in my thought, was a very scary situation. I wasn't ready to serve someone who is neither my father nor my brother. Why would I do that? haha.

AM I FORCED TO GET MARRIED?
Well, the answer is no, a BIG no! :D
I am married because I want to, finally.

WHY DID I CHOOSE HIM?
He has a certain dream in his life. He explained it at the first time of his phone call to me. That dream is just exactly as the same as what I dream all of my life. So we are match with each other because of that reason. It is simple, yes? :D

WHY DID HE CHOOSE ME?
You better ask him! :D

WHAT DO I FEEL AFTER GETTING MARRIED?
Firstly, I feel awkward of course! haha. Because I used to live alone. But then, It feels like it's good to have someone next to me and somebody to talk with. We can spend hours to discuss about every single thing.

WHEN IT'S TIME THEN IT'S TIME
Well, he actually was my high school friend. We've never met for 12 years since 2005. My high school friends were shocked when they knew we're getting married. They said, 'Why didn't you both get marry years ago?'
Haha, that really was an interesting question. But I (and him, of course) believe that everything has its time and place (it's a line in WESTLIFE lyric, though :D). Why didn't this marriage happen years ago? Because at that time we weren't ready, both of us. Just like what Allah SWT said in the noble quran "Thus We arrange things - how well are We at arranging things." (Al-Mursalat:23)

WHAT DO WE BOTH EXPECT?
A life that full of love, respect and loyalty. We may face ups and downs in our future life. But we should always stick together and face it bravely.

THANK YOU
We both want to send our deepest gratitude to people who are meritorious for our bonding. We believe that you all are the extension of God's will. May Allah SWT bless you always.


Surabaya, 17 May 2017